The Solution to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is staring us right in the face, and the Medical/Scientific Communities are simply too blind to do anything about it.
Study results are considered Statistically Significant at 0.05%, so why are peer-reviewed results of 1.821485e-26 that provide an early-warning system for an impending SIDS event currently ignored, dismissed?
Written out it would look like this: .0000000000000000000000001821485
The best I can come up with is that J. Allen Hyneck's quote “As a scientist, I must be mindful of the lessons of the past; all too often it has happened that matters of great value to science were overlooked because the new phenomenon simply did not fit the accepted scientific outlook of the time.” perfectly describes the current state of the medical and scientific communities’ relationship to the SIDS phenomenon that they are so desperately trying to solve.
Or Milton H. Erickson’s quote “What is easiest to see is often overlooked.”
And this, “The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.” Henri Bergson.
Clearly, they are NOT prepared...
As someone reading this now, you are likely the parent of, or are closely associated with the loss of an infant to SIDS or SUID and are looking for answers. So, (as a SIDS father myself) and respecting that, I will ask the following short set of questions. If you find yourself answering YES to a majority (and in particular, questions 1, 5 and 6) I would suggest reading through to the end for that support you’re looking for. In this case through a greater understanding of the traumatic loss you’ve experienced, and importantly, through action items you can help with to ideally shine some desperately needed light that might dispel this dark phenomenon once and for all.
1. Did you experience a premonition regarding the loss of your child?
2. Was there anything unusual about the delivery of the child, i.e., back labor, breech etc.?
3. Was your child “advanced” in any way; physically, communicatively, other?
4. Did your child hold their head up early?
5. Did your child have an unusual gaze/have a tendency to stare/meet you "eye-to-eye"?
6. Did your child exhibit any unusual behaviors or characteristics; Quiet/Content/Old Soul?
7. Did you experience any unusual physical phenomenon (electrical or mechanical) during the time you had to spend with your child or in the period associated with their loss? i.e. lights turning off or on unexpectedly, equipment doing the same or suddenly not working etc.?
If you’re still here, what many of you might be experiencing at this moment is the stirring of catharsis. Hundreds of interviews over the years have taught me that for many of us, these common anomalous factors were a burdensome and heavy weight to carry. Some of us have carried guilt and shame, because of our having received a premonition and not acting on that premonition to potentially save the life of our infant. Others simply kept these things to ourselves, or more likely, after having tried to share them with others or medical professionals and having our mental health questioned, decided to stop doing so in order to protect our already fragile and broken selves from these insults added to our injury.
Catharsis, because what you experienced and knew to be true then was not as you were told; unimportant or a sign of mental health issues, but instead was true and is a set of critically important common factors that hints at the grander nature and power of our humanity. They’re critically important for three reasons:
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Because premonition is a common feature, parents (and/or others close to the infant) know ahead of time of an impending SIDS event. This along with a set of anomalous factors serves as a reliable early-warning system.
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Because these factors are common to the SIDS phenomenon, the education of the generations of the past who have been forced to suffer in silence with the anomalous aspects of their experiences can now be validated and comforted.
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For the current generation of parents and medical professionals/scientists their knowledge of this set of factors that serve as an early-warning system can at a minimum provide the parents with the knowledge and comfort that their experiences ARE REAL and not to be discounted or vilified.
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Worst case scenario: for the medical community is the ability to identify SIDS infants prior to the onset of the SIDS event (or premortem) giving them a new avenue of research to explore.
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Best case scenario: the ability to prevent SIDS deaths because of the identified early-warning system.